This internal audit is exhausting. It leads to , where the nervous system remains in a state of high alert. If the person who was your "safe harbor" is now the source of your pain, the brain struggles to process where to go for safety. The Overlap of Grief
Stop telling yourself you "should have known." You didn't know because you are a person who operates in good faith. That is a strength, not a weakness. Blindsided By Betrayal, Grappling Past Grief
Unlike the grief of a natural passing, this grief is often laced with . There is a temptation to rush the process—to "get over it" to prove you are strong. But grief is not a linear hurdle; it is a landscape you have to walk through. Grappling Toward the Light This internal audit is exhausting